JSYK Love Report: What You Can Learn From Nick Jonas and Selena Gomez's Dating Mistakes
"How many of you have been hurt?" Selena asked her fans at a concert. She then confided to them, "I have. My problem is that it's always with the same guy." Ouch!
This pretty obvious dig at Nick made us wonder, 'What makes someone give an ex who hurt them a second chance?' We sought out Dr. Susan Bartell, a nationally recognized psychologist and author specializing in teens, for answers. Here's what we learned: People tend to give second chances because they usually forget most of the bad stuff. Plus, who wants to be alone?
Sure, times exist when it might be the right decision to give it another go with your ex. One such instance is if your ex shows he or she is sorry for hurting you and is already making changes so that won't happen again. Just be sure your relationship didn't strictly end because your ex hurt you – the real cause should have been because you both weren't working hard enough on your relationship, but now you're equally committed to changing that.
Be smart before putting your heart back out there and letting your ex back in. Ask yourself if this is a relationship you want to work out, are you only going back to him or her because you're afraid of being single, and are there other pressures, like friends, forcing you make a decision one way or the other?
What's the cardinal rule when it comes to exes? "Don't give it a go a third time!" Dr. Bartell advises. "If you're breaking up that often, it's a red flag that the relationship isn't healthy." Are you listening Selena and Nick?