Jennifer Lopez Talks Casper Smart: "I Bring a Lot to the Table"
The 44-year-old re-instated American Idol judge, who smolders in a black leather crop top and black and sheer lace pants on Cosmopolitan's October issue, told the mag her relationship with her 26-year-old choreographer boyfriend is "about having a great partner to walk this life with."
"I have my own high standards for what I want in a partner and how I want to be treated," she continued. "I bring a lot to the table. I'm not talking about material things but what I have to offer as a person – love and loyalty and all the things that make a good relationship."
That loyalty means fully committing to Smart...and expecting the same in return from her partner, whom she affectionately refers to Beau (his real first name).
"It's funny, early on with Beau, I remember telling him how I have a real button on being ignored," J.Lo said. "And he was like, 'Listen, if somebody ignores you, then forget them. They don't deserve to have your attention.' But it's funny. Sometimes when we don't get it, we try to get it in a negative way, you know?"
And the "Hit the Floor" crooner also dished on her previous insecurities about her singing voice, crediting ex-hubby Marc Anthony with helping her build the confidence to continue her music career when she wanted to quit.
"The biggest insecurity I had was my singing," she said. "Even though I had sold 70 million records, there was this feeling like, I'm not good at this. And while I was married to Marc, he helped me get over it."
"He kept telling me, 'You're the only one holding yourself back from reaching your full potential as a singer. You have to let go'...I was always so insecure and just kind of going along," she went on. "Then I grew, little by little, and realized, wait a minute, this is not a fluke. I'm not a mistake – I work my a-- off. And I know what I'm doing."