My first blind date was in 2009 when I was a junior in high school. I had just ended a two-month relationship, and my friends decided that a blind date would be fun. After school, I met with this high school senior for my first blind date, and those first 20 minutes remain the most awkward of my life.
We met at a patisserie and exchanged nothing more than a few occasional smiles as none of us had done anything like this before. I broke the ice and asked him how it was to be a senior, and we spent the next two hours talking about life goals, college applications and life in general.
In 2013, after ending a two-year relationship, I was talking about boyfriends with my friends, and this time, I asked them set me up on a blind date. I ended up going out with a college graduate who was living his life to the fullest and was my complete opposite, which made us argue a lot. We didn't talk for long as I felt uncomfortable, so I just left. We never met again.
Although I have had only two blind dates, this is what I learned:
- Meeting someone by yourself is tricky; making a relationship work is tricky. Leaving when you are feeling uncomfortable with someone is NOT tricky. It's actually pretty easy if you just follow your gut.
- Standing up for yourself is required nowadays, whether that's in a blind date or life in general.
Don't EVER let anyone make judge of values about yourself.