While recently chatting with Vanity Fair, Tay Tay opened up about her crappy, past relationships and how she got over the big balls of horribleness. And believe it or not, eating ice cream and partying her face off wasn't the way she dealt.
"For the better part of 2012 and 2013, I did not go online, because I didn't like what they were saying about me. And it was so overwhelmingly inaccurate that I knew there was nothing I could do to fight. When the media decides that they don't like you, there's nothing you can do that doesn't seem desperate and irritating to everyone when you try to defend yourself," she said.
"So I just had to go into my little emotional bunker and pretend there weren't bombs going off outside."
"I think that I just decided if [the media] was going to say that about me, that I was boy-crazy and so dependent on men and all that, I wasn't going to give them a reason to say that anymore, and I wasn't going to be seen around any men for years—so that's what I did," she added speaking of trying to change her image.
"And what ended up happening was I became happier than I had ever been before. I swore I would never ever get in another relationship if it meant changing who I was, or taking me out of that mode where my friends are everything to me."
So you know what that means about her boo, Calvin Harris! He must be in with the girls. That's obvy because he enrolled one of her pals for his new video, and has been seen in numerous Instagram pictures with his lady's BFFs. #Perfect
Taylor doesn't mention him by name in the mag's cover story, though she does allude to him. Before Cal came along, she says she was "not looking for anything, not necessarily being open to anything, and only being open to the idea that, if I found someone who would never try to change me, that would be the only person I could fall in love with. Because, you know, I was in love with my life."
How could one not be in love with her life? For reals, though.
She also added that it's "so important" for her boyfriend to get along with her girlfriends. "In every friendship group, you've got one or two girls where you hear people say, 'Oh, she's so different around her boyfriend!' I never wanted to be that girl...so that was a huge goal of mine: never ever become someone else for the sake of a relationship."
OMG, if that quote doesn't need to be sent to a few people pronto or what...Preach on, Tay!
"If you're a people pleaser, like most of us are, you try to adapt to what signals that person is giving off. It's not about changing the fact that you're a people pleaser; it's about finding someone who is not critical," she continued.
"That can be the most painful thing, trying to love someone who is critical in their nature." Taylor admitted that "yes," that has happened to her with past boyfriends. "But usually I don't make the same mistake twice," she told Vanity Fair. "I make new ones, but I don't usually repeat my old ones."
This girl needs to be on money or something. President, perhaps? Gah, she's genius and we seriously can't do nothing but take notes from her awesomeness. #BestRoleModelEver