Girlfriend, you don't need no man! TV anchor, producer and author, Tamsen Fadal (and Beyoncé) knows it's true! We chatted with the über successful boss lady about her new book, The New Single, and how important it is to love yourself, first!
CAMBIO: Tell us a little bit about The New Single.
TAMSEN FADAL: It's about you and finding yourself...It's really about becoming who you are...at any point in your life, whether you're in a relationship, whether you're starting out in your first relationship, the most important thing is figuring out who you are, who you want to be and how you're getting there on your own without relying on somebody else first.
What is the single best piece of advice you would give to a young girl going through a breakup?
My father said this to me a long, long time ago, and it's one of the first lines in the book: "It's better to be alone, than lonely with somebody." And I didn't understand what it meant at first, but then I realized that a lot of us settle just because we want to be with somebody and want to have that fairy tale romance and just don't want to be alone. And my best advice would be that you have to learn how to be alone first. So when you figure that out and feel comfortable in your own skin, you can do anything. I wish I knew that when I was younger because I think it would've saved me a lot of heartache.
What's the greatest challenge you've faced in your career?
Taking the time to say thank you to myself and be appreciative every once in a while. I don't take the time enough to say, "Wow I did a good job at this!" Or give myself a pat on the back. We're in a society where we wanna go faster and harder and longer and be more successful, and I've learned now that I have to stop and give myself a beat because that balance is critical. Again, I wish I would've known that when I was 26 when I got into television. That balance is just as important as working hard.
Have you ever felt discriminated against for being a woman in the working world?
I think that early on in my career...it was a different time almost 20 years ago...I came in with the name "Tamsen Fadal," and people didn't know who I was, I was moving all over the country, I looked a little bit different than everybody else, so yeah, I think I felt different. I didn't feel like the girl next door. My name is a little strange; I'm Lebanese...but, once I moved to New York, a place that is so diverse, I became the girl next door! And that was a nice thing.
We are partnered with an initiative called #BUILTBYGIRLS that encourages girls to be the protagonists in their own lives. What is one piece of advice you would give a girl who is trying to follow her dreams, no matter they may be?
Stop looking at other people, stop comparing yourself to other people and know that you can do absolutely anything! Paint that picture. I think that with Facebook and social media and Twitter, we have a tendency to look and compare ourselves to other people and the most important thing is to look at yourself, stay in your own lane and know that you can do anything that you want to do out there, and it doesn't matter if you're a girl or a boy!
Pick up a copy of The New Single on Amazon, now!