Now we ask: Why is this important? Is this the age that we live in? We are unconscious liars?
"I have had to make decisions, like, why am I unhappy? OK, Stefani, Gaga, hybrid person: Why are you unhappy? Why is it that you wanted to quit music (a couple years ago)?
OK, well, I really don't like selling these fragrances, perfumes. I don't like wasting my time spending days just shaking people's hands and smiling, taking selfies. It feels shallow to my existence. I have a lot more to offer than my image.
I don't like being used to make people money. I feel sad when I am overworked and that I just become a moneymaking machine and that my passion and my creativity takes a backseat - that makes me unhappy.
So what did I do? I started to say no. I'm not doing that. I don't want to do that. I'm not taking that picture. I'm not going to that event. I'm not standing by that because that's not what I stand for, and slowly but surely I remembered who I am.
And then you go home and you look in the mirror and you're like, "Yes. I can go to bed with you...every night." 'Cause that person? I know that person. That person has balls. That person has integrity. That person has an opinion. That person just doesn't say yes.
That person doesn't get a text from somebody and say, "Oh my god, they wrote this and, um, they sent this emoji - should I write this back? Should I say this back? Is it OK to say this? Are they going to like me if I say that? Should I say something different?"
This is the age we live in. We aren't actually communicating with each other. We are unconsciously communicating lies."
In my opinion, yes! Yes, we are.
We lie whenever we feel sad, when we pretend that the things that we do without wanting are actually good and that we are enjoying them. We say that a picture was really taken by us (when it wasn't) or that we are busy when we just don't want to leave the house. And the thing is, we are so used to saying tiny lies that we've become fake, pathological liars about our emotions without even realizing it.
It's time to us to get out of our comfort zone and start saying no if we don't want to do something apart from showing that we care. Because sometimes, we don't care about whatever is happening in our friend's life or the event that is happening at the park tonight, and that is actually fine. We have to stop pretending to be someone that we are not. We have to start to leave our phones inside our purses and have real communication over a coffee with real words.
Otherwise, how are we going to grow up in a world were the truth is covered by secret lying details?