An Open Letter to my Future Boyfriend
It's not going to be easy; good relationships never are. I'm going to test you and challenge you every step of the way. We are going to argue and bicker. I will call you out on your faults, just like I hope you call me out on mine. I want to bring out the best in you and hope that you bring out the best in me. I know this relationship can be great. You just have to deal with me. If you can deal with my vulnerability and my flaws, then boy, I will be yours forever.
I'm really easy. Call me beautiful, and I'll melt in your hands. Prove to me that I'm the only one for you, and I will give you the world. I'm selfless, and if you prove yourself to me, I'll give you anything I can. But you have to deal with me too, because like any girl, I'm not perfect.
I believe that it is beautiful to be imperfect. Blemishes and scars, baggage and vulnerability, is beautiful. Imperfections are what make people who they are, so you should know right away that I am not perfect and I will never pretend to be.
Along with being imperfect, I can also be a b**ch. I can complain, whine and be a pain in the a**. I'd rather do things myself than wait for them to be done. I like to be in control. I am also extremely honest. I can be harsh and even rude, but I will always tell it like it is. I will give it to you straight and although I will try to be careful with your feelings, I won't lie. I believe that to be a real person, you shouldn't hide who you really are. There is nothing worse than fakeness to me. I will always be real, no matter how b**chy that might be.
While my girls nights mean the world to me, most nights I would rather stay in, curl up in bed with a mug of hot chocolate and a good movie or an interesting book. I can get lost in a book or one of my favorite movies. I need that alone time; it's how I distress. I need you to be OK with the fact that I won't want to go out every night. I need my time to relax, and you need your time to do what you like to do.
When we do go out, be ready for a good time. I like to drink, I like to dance, and I like to let loose. I'm not scared to have fun and meet new people. I'm also comfortable being who I am when we go out. Don't expect a face full of makeup and a sexy outfit. I wear what makes me comfortable in my own skin. I rather stick with my more natural look than try too hard to look sexy.
I hope you can dance because I will break it down on the dance floor. I have no shame when it comes to having a good time. I'll do the moonwalk, the running man or the cupid shuffle. I know what it feels like to sit in the corner and shy away from the spotlight. I did that for the last guy I was with, but I'm sorry I won't do that again. We can have fun, and you can be the life of the party with me.
Another thing that is important to me is that I am a lady. I respect my body and my mind. I believe in commitment and loyalty in a relationship. I'll be honest; I'm a prude. I'm not your typical girl. I don't sleep around or hook up. I like conversation and getting to know someone. I think it's important to be able to have an intellectual conversation with someone. Intimacy is important too, but holding a conversation is even more important to me. I respect intelligence, and I believe that you should like me for more than just my looks.
I promise that I won't be too hard on you. I can be patient and kind as long as you are willing to do the same for me. I'll give you my whole heart if you are ready to give away yours. I will give you all the love you need. I will give you the world. All I ask is that you handle my heart with care, and understand that just like every other girl, I'm not perfect.
Ms. Patiently Waiting