Dear Future Bae, I Hope You Can Handle Me
I write you this open letter, not in order to expose my feelings for you (which would be quite ridiculous as you are from the future!), but in order to tell you what you about to deal with it. Because believe me, it's not going to be easy.
First, because being on a relationship never is. There is always three lives that we have to respect, fight for and support each other on. And no, I am not talking about children (at least not yet!), but about us. My life, your life and our life are three distinct things, and you need to know how to differentiate between them.
Second, I have been hurt before, and I hurt people before and I seriously don't want to do it ever again. I am a very independent woman, and you have to respect it! Yes, I might be living with my parents by the time that we first meet up or I might be living with friends or even having my own flat, but nothing of it matters when it comes between us. I have traveled, worked and lived away in some countries around Europe, so you are going to have to respect that when I say that I just want to be at home eating bratwurst and onion pie from that German pub around the corner, drinking Guinness and having Early Grey after, I will just do it. And I'm sorry if I don't leave any for you, but a girl's gotta eat.
I will treat you, love you and cherish you from the bottom of my heart, but I don't want to be with you all the time. Nor even texting you 24/7. I love my alone time! Gives me time to read a good book, catching up on my favorite shows, blogging about something or just crying my eyes out about something that is bothering me. And believe me, I will respect yours, too!
I love football. I am a Chelsea fan, and I never lose a game from Portugal or Benfica. And yes, I will do it while drinking beers and eating cheese nachos. I will be by your side when your favorite team wins or loses, and you will have to teach me about all the sports that you like because I just really like football and tennis. If you want to go to Wimbledon or scream your lungs out at the any football stadium, I'm your girl!
I am dirty in body and soul! I am perverted in some of my thoughts and sayings, but hey, I am Portuguese! It was born with me, can't change it, so if you can't handle a girl that has her s**t together, you better say next. I will not keep my mouth shut if something is nagging me, and I'll be honest about it. And I hope the very same of you. I'm a big girl, and I can handle it.
I am also a lady. I still believe that chivalry exists, and I still like when someone opens the door for me. I love flowers (lilies and orchids are my favorites), chocolates and a good chick flick. I also love Netflix kind of nights. I don't like when I'm the center of attention, and I don't think that I'm the center of the universe.
I won't blast you on the Internet if you do something that isn't of my taste, but if you hurt me, you will have two men at your door who are able to do whatever it takes to see me happy. And believe me, my Dad and my uncle don't play about it.
I might look tough, and I want you to know that I have suffered a lot and fight very hard to be who, how and where I'm today. I won't ask you to love my family, but I will ask you to respect them. It's one thing for me to talk about my mom's food; it's a whole other thing for you to talk about it. You follow?When I say that I don't accept bulls**t from anyone, you are included.
I love to travel, to jog and to laugh. I don't like to go over the same subject over and over again. For me, it makes no sense. I'm not perfect, but I promise that I will try to do my very best. I just hope that you will do it, too.
With all the love,
Your future love