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How the Anti-Relationship Girl Found Herself in a Relationship

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If you asked me about having a boyfriend a few years ago, I would roll my eyes and reply, "Yeah, right. I'm not about that relationship life." Before you go thinking, This girl just wants to get around or She's just bitter, she's single, think again. To be honest, I've always been very happy and content being single, and I don't think anything is wrong with that.

Don't get me wrong; I couldn't be happier to see family and friends in close relationships with a significant other. Before you misinterpret what I'm saying here, let's all understand that I encourage relationships and I'm all for them...just not for me. I guess I'm just happy being independent and only having to worry about myself. I know I sound like a selfish biotch, but I mean that in the most selfless way possible. I always thought to myself, Focus on yourself - your health, your goals and your family - and that has worked out fine for the past 21 years. I casually dated guys, but really nothing serious.
Until now.
To give a brief back story on my love life, there was this one guy in particular. Let's name him Mike. Mike and I met when I was 18, and he was a few years older. Being a senior in high school, dating an older boy? Holllaaaaa young Fabs! I was smitten by this guy, and every time he took me on romantic dates, I liked him even more. I even took him to my senior prom; come on, that's saying a lot (best prom date hands down). Learning he wasn't looking for a relationship at that time, I felt confused and hurt. I didn't really want a boyfriend either, but I didn't want him talking to other girls. Ahhhhh, the infamous case of you can't have your cake and eat it, too. Mike and I certainly had our rough patches, and mind you, we were just friends. At times, it felt like an emotional roller coaster as I was young, naive and learning the hard way about boys. We always liked each other and always found our way back to one another throughout the past four years, even when dating other people. Four years, people! That's 14 years in celebrity time!

This past summer was definitely when our relationship took a turn for the good. After Mike returned from a month-long trip, how I missed him. Even though we talked every day (thanks Viber), I could tell our relationship suddenly felt like more. We both matured, and I think finally realized we wanted to be together, exclusive, no one else involved, and here we are today. I must be honest and admit the whole labeling a relationship thing kind of freaks me out. I feel like once that label is placed, things change, expectations are high and pressures are on. That's definitely me thinking way too much into it, I know.
Although most of my friends say, "It's about time with you two," I honestly wouldn't take back those past four years for anything. I learned a lot about myself, about guys and what I want from someone. I don't mean to sound like a hypocrite when one day I'm so "ugh" to boyfriends and now I find myself dating someone. But to my fellow chicas, my best piece of advice is don't rush into anything (okay, my situation is a little extreme with the length of time), but be sure to take your time, get to know the person and make sure you can find happiness within yourself before you seek it in others. When the timing is right for you and someone special, it will all fall into place.
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