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Dear 20-Something Me, Here's What to Expect in Your 30s

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Dear Self at 20-Something,

I know you think you've got it all figured out, and you do! You are awesome! You have fun, real fun that involves cocktails, conversations that span a wide variety of mind-stimulating topics, chic clothing, travel, late nights, early mornings, selfies, $50 restaurant meals and weekday excursions. You wear makeup and high heels even though both can be a pain. You are adventurous and curious and beautiful and amazing, and I miss you.

I miss you because one day you will stop being most of these things. One day you will "settle down" and settle for mediocrity. One day you will forget about the most important person in your life: you. Although you may not believe me now, one day is coming sooner than you think, but don't worry. All is not lost. I will tell you what I have learned in my 30s, so when you get here, you will know exactly what to do.

Don't blindly follow advice from anyone. Sure, there are a lot of people in your life who mean well, but no one knows you like you know yourself.

You should not get a business degree. You like the idea of being an executive (mostly because wearing power suits and designer handbags makes you happy), but you can play dress up anytime. Pursue something more creative, maybe writing.

You will not be happy working 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., stuck behind a desk in a windowless office. You can try it (again), but we were really miserable.

Don't mistake love and infatuation. Right now, you love infatuation. You will find true love, and it will be amazing and forever.

Don't fear having children. You have a daughter, and she is amazing. You don't just love her; you actually like her because she is an extraordinary little human.

Don't forget about you. You will get married. You will have a baby. You will love your husband and your child more than you ever thought possible. You will still be the most important character in the story of your life.

Don't forget to have fun. Diapers, home decor, mortgages and jobs are new, but they are not fun. Make time to have real fun every once in a while.

Sugar is the devil. It is delicious, and your metabolism can handle it now. But when you turn 30, it will go straight to your thighs, turn into cement and remain there forever.

Thirty is not the end. It is just the beginning.

You have an amazing life. You have traveled. You have a wonderful family. You have amazing friends. You have dreams and goals. Never lose sight of this. Others may try to convince you to change your ways; I know deep down that you had it right the first time. And now you know, too.

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